About Me


My name is Rhesa Rubin.

I am a NC Certified Mediator, Parenting Coordinator, Guardian Ad Litem and Divorce Coach. I have assisted NC families with resolving their separation, divorce and co-parenting issues for many years, after an active career as a family law attorney in California. 

I earned a J.D. from Thomas Jefferson School of Law (CA) and a B.A. in English Literature from University of California, Los Angeles. 

For two years prior to joining a law firm, I was the Research Attorney for five Judicial Officers at Santa Clara County Family Court, CA. 

During my eleven years as a practicing family law attorney, I resolved the majority of my cases through settlement conferences and extended discussions with opposing counsel and my clients. My litigation practice included addressing issues such as: prenuptial agreements, paternity, child custody, real estate, child and spousal support, domestic violence, marital property division, business interests and international child custody. During my years of practicing family law, I saw firsthand the havoc families experienced when Judges decided the fate of their family unit and the years of stressful encounters following the final judgement of divorce. I came to the conclusion that mediation offered a kinder and gentler way to resolve separation/divorce issues and observed that this process helped to set the stage for parties to have successful future interactions, which is especially important if there are children from their marriage. 

In addition to practicing law in CA, I volunteered as a Settlement Conference Judge and as a Judge Pro Tempore for the Default Calendar for Santa Clara County Family Court. 

I left my law partnership in order to focus on providing mediation services and I took the required courses and trainings in CA and NC. I became a Certified Mediator, Parenting Coordinator, Guardian Ad Litem, and Divorce Coach after moving to NC. I continue to actively participate in and attend courses, seminars and meetings relating to Mediation, Parenting Coordination, Divorce Coaching, and being a Guardian Ad Litem. 

Since moving to NC, I have mediated family issues at the Dispute Settlement Center of Orange County and at Wake County District Court (Family Court). In addition, I have prepared Power of Attorney documents for UNC-CH Hospital & Legal Aid of NC’s Cancer Project and for Immigration Clinics hosted by NC Justice Center.   

It would be my pleasure to help you and your significant other negotiate an agreement that reflects what both of you want going forward. I believe you will find the process to be more satisfying and cost effective than litigation proceedings and that YOUR agreement will truly reflect a compromise between the two of you.